Adoptive Parents NEED NOT FEAR losing their adult child to a birthparent

I just watched part of a TV show called An Adoption Story. The prospective adoptive parents expressed concern because they "heard about adopted children growing up & leaving them to find their birth parents" ... and they "didn't want to put all that effort into raising a child only to have them leave". My first reaction was: "Oh my God, what an insecure dick!" And after thinking about it for ... oh, maybe 10 seconds, I realized I had to say something.

I understand. They just don't know. They've got no adopted friends, no experience with it. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a concern for them. They ended up adopting from Korea. Partly, I think, to alleviate their concerns about "putting all that effort into raising a child only to have him / her leave someday".

Ya, the guy pissed me off. FIRST of all, if you're a good, loving parent, and you do your best, your child isn't going to leave you. SECONDLY, for an adoptee, the need to know where you came from is natural, and not necessarily a bad thing.

My birth parents are both good people, both were too young to raise me when I was born.

My parents wanted nothing more than to have children. They loved me & gave me (and my brother - also adopted) an awesome childhood.

Both birth parents, when I met them, asked if I'd had a good childhood.

Yes.

I love my parents. My parents will always be, my parents. My mom & dad.

I'm one of the lucky ones -- who was able to find & meet my birth families. I've built relationships with them, and I love many of them too. But that love absolutely does not take from the love - the bond - the relationship I have with my parents & my brother.

I hope that this blog is found, by people who are considering adoption. People who fear losing a child they raised.
If you're that person, please hear me when I say this ... LOVE your child. And you will not lose them. Be HONEST with them from day one. UNDERSTAND that they may NEED to know where they came from biologically. SUPPORT them in that. And you won't lose them.

And TODAYS most brilliant news statement is ...

And TODAYS most brilliant news statement is ...

"Officials are looking into WHY the two trains were on the same track."

let see ...

don't drink and drive

don't eat rat poison

don't hold a gun to your head

don't put two trains on the same track heading toward each other

through the eyes of the camera holder

I don't know if anyone else saw this, but last night on The History Channel, there was a 9/11 special. Footage none of us have ever seen before, captured by regular people; a college student, a mother, a couple of regular guys, etc. It was amazing to see it unfold, the way they saw it.

The mom a block away, she & her husband inside their apartment, one minute terrified, watching a terrorist attack killing thousands, the next minute telling her little girl -- in a calm, comforting voice -- to go watch cartoons. All were evacuated from their buildings ... and sent walking.

One guy filming, captured a group of firefighters walking, carrying their equipment toward tower 2, close-ups of their faces. I remember thinking how beautiful they all were ... and wondering if they lived through the day. Later we were told that all of them were killed. It was almost spiritual seeing their faces. It's hard to explain without sounding like a crazy person... there was just this great sense of calm about them.

We heard voices coming through the radios. The voices of men up there trying to help, sounding overwhelmed, frustrated, sad, desperate.

And one guy walks by a building with 7's on each large window. Building 7? Yup. The guy with the camera went in. There was a dude inside, in charge. "Everyone's out of here, we evacuated, I'm just here to make sure nobody else is up there." (Yet he was standing in the lobby.) He tells dude with camera he should go. But the most remarkable thing about that footage ... there was no smoke. No fire in building 7.

Men with thick Italian accents at times square, watching it all unfold -- with 100 other people -- on the big screen. "We should go to war, now!" & "They don't deserve to walk this planet." & We should go to Afghanistan & just bomb the hell out of em'. -- blow them all up -- kill 'em all!."

"Basic human survival." they called it. Speaking of which, A five-second shot, of an Asian man, carrying a 3 year old boy. The man was wearing one of these

The child he carried, was not.

My immediate reaction to seeing that was: "fucking asshole".

I like to think that I do not know anyone who would have been wearing that -- everyone I know would have had it on the child.

Fucking asshole.

The college students. Two Freshmen women. "What do we do? what do we do? Wait for ME!"

People just completely covered in the white ash.

A fireman phones his wife: "I'm okay."

I don't know when they'll replay it again. Maybe you can see it online. I don't know. Due to the graphic nature ... it was on late.

Very powerful stuff.

See it if you can.

Are greeting cards recession-proof?

Are greeting cards recession-proof?

I think so.

Everyone can still afford a birthday card.

Maybe not a birthday gift ... but definitely a birthday card.

Woohoo!!!!!!

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